Suppress Those Stereotypes - Cure Your "Hardening of the Categories"

A few months after the infamous 9/11 disaster in New York City, I was directing a communication training seminar in New York for the Orvis company. I asked the group for examples of how stereotypesour preconceived opinions about people, based more on assumptions than factshad impacted their communication recently. one participant said:

"Shortly after the world Trade Center disaster, our hunting lodge got a request to host a two-day shoot for people whose names reflected mid-Eastern origins. We were quite suspicious, even fearful. Did they want to improve their marksmanship so they could destroy Americans? Were we in danger ourselves? Yet when the group arrived, we saw right away that they were well mannered, exceptionally cooperative. In fact, they became some of the most pleasant guests we ever hosted. Soon, nothing about them frightened us. We discovered that our stereotypes were unfair and misleading."

Have you ever felt that you were a victim of stereotyping? As women have moved into managerial posts, they have referred to a glass ceilingthe barrier to greater advancement because of the stereotype which questions their ability to handle leadership responsibilities at the highest levels. Out of those rigid expectations have emerged comments like these: But what if her child gets sick? and Will she have enough emotional stability when the going gets tough? or Im not sure the men will want to report to her.

Many professional people who live in the southern region of the Unites States experience stereotypes when they travel elsewhere. You have to break through the exaggerated, obsolete images of the South created by Hee Haw, Dukes of Hazard, the Andy Griffith Show, Gomer Pyle, and other television programs. Uninformed people who accept those perceptions almost expect you to show up barefooted, use terrible grammar, and be totally uninformed about manners, business and national affairs.

Throughout my childhood, I had to fight the stereotype that came with being an identical twin. Because my brother Ben and I looked alike, peopleeven family membersconcluded that we would have identical opinions on every topic, and that we wanted to do the same things. Those notions were way off base. Even today, although we share some interests and ideas, our differences out weigh our similarities.

To subdue stereotypesboth in yourself and in othersand clear the way for fair and productive communication, I recommend these steps:

Identify the stereotypes that have marred your judgment, such as "All athletes are poor students" and "All wealthy people are selfish and greedy."

Look for exceptions to your stereotypes. You will find brilliant athletes and you'll meet rich people who support philanthropic causes.

Eliminate harmful words and phrases from your vocabulary, such as Every and "That's just like a . . ."

Challenge stereotypes people express about others. Example: Someone says, "All bosses are just out for themselves." You reply, "That may be true in some cases. But my supervisor makes sure that everybody on his team enjoys an equal opportunity to get promoted."

Challenge categories people assign you to automatically. Suggest politely, Youre mistaken in your opinion about me. Let me tell you why. With tact and goodwill, you and I can resist accepting the labels we dont fit. Well win respect, and we will pave the way for unblemished communication.

When I shared these thoughts with Joe Pinner, a prominent South carolina television broadcaster, he sent me this wonderful reply: We are so often and so quick to lump, generalize and paint all with the same brush. Sometimes, in a fit of stupidity, I am guilty of the sameand thank God I stop and realize how devastating that stupidity is, especially when I joyously see an African-american, a Jew, a Muslim, or even a Baptist (being Methodist) friend of mine or someone I admire, and do not see race or creed, but feel absolute friendship, admiration or even love. People who are mired in hatred and prejudice are dangerous and to be pitied.

bill Lampton, Ph.D., helps organizations Finish in first Place by strengthening their communication, motivation, sales, and customer service. His speeches, seminars, and communication coaching have benefited numerous clients, including the Ritz-Carlton Cancun, Gillette, Duracell, Procter & Gamble, Missouri bar, and the Environmental Protection Agency. Visit his Web site to sign up for his complimentary monthly E-mail newsletter: http://www.ChampionshipCommunication.com Call Dr. Lampton to discuss how his services will benefit your organization: 770-534-3425. E-mail him: drbill@ChampionshipCommunication.com

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